A "Queer" Film?
Last week, in my film class, my professor asked us to pick a movie to watch together. We must first pick a genre, then put down some options then we cast our votes. Some people picked Super Heroes, some recommended History, but one struck me most was someone who suggested a "queer" film. She also put The Danish Girl in our options.
So, what is exactly a "queer" film?
If you have met me in person, you would know that I do not like discussing about my sexuality with strangers. I even hated it. Back home when someone asks me if I have a girlfriend, I usually just smiled and answered "No" but deep down I wanted to slap them in the face. The same thing happened to me in New York City when one of my colleagues asked me if I had seen any interesting guys the night before. Again, I said "no" and pulled out my phone and told my friends how badly I want to strangle her. I am not crazy about political correction but I hate it when people take advantages of that and combine it with micro aggression just to befriend me and at the same time, to show off how considerate they are. The assumption of I'm as a male college student so I should have a girl is as offensive to me as to assume I'm gay because someone randomly picked up the fucking clues based on my behaviors. How about just asking "did you see anyone special last night?" Why the fuck do you have to put he or she in your question? I meant, more importantly, why do you even ask about my private life while I just know you?
This is how I feel when my classmate (who happened to be gay as well) suggested "queer" as a genre. In fact, we had this discussion in class in which someone else said "queer" as a sub genre of Romance. Of course, the other person strongly negated this idea. She argued that "queer" movies should be a genre since it's not entirely about romance. Here I found another dilemma, not every queer movies are about being queer. Why can we only find queer protagonists in queer movies only? I will use this question from my Women in Art class: should artworks produced by women be viewed separately from those by men? One critic even said "I can't believe this painting was done by a woman because it is as good as by a man." This is why I don't want queer movies to be categorized as queer just because it has a fucking gay character.
There are many assumptions about queer movies: 1) They have a queer character (gay, lesbian, transgender, you name it) and 2) It's about their fucking coming-out story. I agree that LGBTQ community was oppressed in history but this is not the reason why we should treat queer movies as a genre. Most movies about LGBTQ are about their coming-out story and how they feel isolated from the society. But, why movies are always about their oppression? I mean, why even about them fighting for themselves but not the superior heterosexual who are fucking homophobic? Why can't we normalize coming-out? I mean, why even LGBTQ community has to come out? Why is it on them but not us?
I desperately want to see a movie that normalizes a LGBTQ character, which means a movie that presents them, then moves on to another fucking aspect of their lives rather than focuses on the struggle with their sexuality. Most movies that have LGBTQ characters do this, either leading characters or supporting characters. Unfortunately, many of my favorites movies failed (The Perks of Being a Wallflower, Cloud Atlas).
Recently, I found this hidden gem: The Good Fight, the spin-off of my favorite drama The Good Wife. Finally I found a TV series that has a leading character that is a lesbian and no one gives a fuck (except her crazy ex-boyfriend who was surprised that a woman can have sex with a woman, SURPRISEEEEEEE!!!!)
This utopia is what I am looking for, as well as many other members of the LGBTQ community. We want to live in a world that a boy (or a girl) is interested in another kid and parents don't give a damn about their gender or sexual orientation.
"Queer" movies, to me, should not be a genre (Netflix still listed LGBTQ as a genre, though). I am not saying we should not make movies about coming-out stories but I believe it is time to normalize gay characters. I want that moment when someone goes to a theater to see an action movie then surprises because the leading character is, in fact, gay, but still sits through the movie and appreciates it. And I want this movie just to present this person is gay then moves on and focuses more on the action.